The Book of Joy: Joy of Missing Out (JOMO)
Sometimes, it's not the world being evil. It just you attract those negative content plus your environment did it on your algorithm.
This year, I just realize that I already having too much energy and time on social media. Scrolling on Instagram reels, watching more than 250 content each day, reads those negativities built by X algorithm. They just make me realize how many times I spend my life just for watching people content.
Sometimes I changed to my other account which had better algorithm but still, I’ve wasted 2–4 hours just for other people content and made me ask myself on ‘how long will it take me to only see?’
Until last month I was overwhelmed to see several contents which contain the violence to the women and child, women rape, child marriage, and dozens of cheating cases by husband. Moreover, I also found hundreds content about online gambling on several memes and so called those ‘provocation video.’
With the election season coming up in my country, I found more more and more buzzer on social media which makes me struggle to tidy up my algorithm. I already try to fill up my timeline with all of my Korean bias such as Jae-Joong, TVXQ, Stray Kids, Hyunjin, and Felix but still!!! I FOUND MORE ONLINE GAMBLING AND BUZZER CONTENT!
Being fucked up by my own social media, I tried to do all the little things I love or simply daily activity to makes me live on my own life and here several activities I did to distract me from my social media. I knew that most people know, but I just make it intense nowaday~
Record all of my ‘daily and ordinary activities’ as an achievement!
Such an ordinary activity but I just realize that I need to do it more!
Most people believe that they must posting and publish their achievement by make it as story or content on social media. I start to appreciate little things I did such as cooking, dancing, or simply hang out to other place. Sometimes I only record it for my own, or just send it to my boyfriend.
This will make me to have a tendency to do a new activity or ‘interesting and fun activities to explore.”. This will grow your ‘content creator mentality.’ and try to think about new activity which you want to explore, the Wishlist that you forgot about.
Mandatory ‘click’ on ‘not interested’ button because why not?
Sometimes we forgot that we have this button to click and tidy up our timeline. Or it just me? idk haha.
There is a day when my timeline become FULL OF ELECTION CONTENT COMES FROM BUZZER and It just makes me mad all day long due to their stupid statement. This kind of reels or X thread just piss me off and decrease my trust of public authorities. The way they spend their funding on simply disrupting the algorithm of its citizens makes me realize that they are so arrogant!. Therefore, I decided to block or mute them on all of my social media.
Read books and meditation while listen some music and embrace the instrument~
This is the most ordinary activity to avoid social media.
However, I have some difficulty to focus on one activity. While read a book, I tried to find a good music, taking picture on some quotes, eat some snacks, order online groceries. In an extreme condition, I read a book while laying my body to my bed at night while snacking chocolate or biscuit!
At least I have finished 2 books complete this year which is a big achievement for me! I think this year I will try to read more and finish it. I feel incredibly proud because normally I reads a half of the book or maximum 80% of the pages. How embarrassing isn't it!
Planning all of my goals for my first quarter with the most optimistic timeline
“If you want to change anything in your life, change the channel and change the frequency by changing your thoughts.”
― Rhonda Byrne, The Secret
I always believe that our word will be reality and since 2017 I always tried to talk nice thing or write all my wish list on my book or paper. However, it always become those unorganized desires. So, I decided to tidy it up and makes timeline on it. Looks too perfectionist but it is better than only scrolling on your social media, isn't it?
For some people, this would be a ‘toxic positivity’ but once again, I believe that our thoughts will bring it as reality. Furthermore, when I become addicted to social media, it will bring me to thousand frequency which bring me nowhere to go.
Challenge myself!
And yes! honestly, I just did some challenge and try to discipline on it~
I challenge myself to join weekly dance class, writing challenge, and also challenge myself to have monthly target on scholarship admission. The last one is just one of my ambition but the other simply my attempts to replace my energy from scrolling the social media into write down ideas or learnt choreography. It is not easy at first, especially for people like me whose having some issue to be consistent.
Tick all of my task list, weekly target, and monthly goals become one of my best activities ever, especially for those hobby and other weekly activities.
Thats all~~~~~~
Since I try all of those activities, I started to slowly but sure distance myself with my social media while being productive back to my life.
Back to makes my life more Joyful!
